Laura Jones, Paralegal in the Family Department at Rowlinsons Solicitors discusses this question and how Child arrangements can work at Christmas time.
Christmas is one of the most magical times of the year however, it can also be a time of worry and apprehension when it comes to deciding who the children should spend their time with over the festive period. The last thing you want is for the children to be worrying whether they will get to see mum or dad and if possible, these arrangements should be made in advance.
The earlier parents can discuss matters with the other parent, the better as it will provide clarity on how the children’s time will be spent over the Christmas period. Ideally, an agreement should be reached directly between the parents well in advance however, there are services such as mediation that can greatly assist, offering a safe and neutral space to discuss such important matters. If face to face communication with the other parent is not possible, then there are various parenting apps which can assist parents in communicating in an appropriate way. Co-parenting can be challenging especially around the holidays, so it is important to utilise what tools you can to engage in an appropriate way and make arrangements which are in the best interests of the children.
Providing it is safe and appropriate to do so, children need a relationship with both parents. Many parents often look to alternate Christmas or share the time over the festive period. There is however no right or wrong way when it comes to formulating a plan for arrangements at Christmas. Rowlinsons can also offer assistance to parents who are unsure how to tackle Christmas or holiday arrangements.
Unfortunately, not all separated parents will easily be able to reach an amicable agreement, for any number of reasons. Mediation is a useful way in which parents can discuss future arrangements for children with the assistance of an independent mediator. If agreement is still unable to be reached, then an application to court can be made for child arrangements order and ultimately, the judge will decide the future arrangements for the children in terms of who they live with and when and how much time they spend with the other parent. The courts paramount concern when looking at a child arrangements order is the welfare of the child, and this principle will be at the forefront of any decision made by the judge. It is therefore important to understand that the judge may reach an arrangement which is different to that proposed by you or the other party. An application to court should be viewed as the last resort as it is a timely, stressful and costly route to go down however, we appreciate that in some circumstances it is the most appropriate action to take.
We hope that Christmas is an enjoyable time for you and your family, however, should you require any assistance in relation to children matters, then please do not hesitate to contact us on 01928 735 333 and we would be more than happy to assist.